oh, I was so shaken

So Friday I was leaving for a one night training workshop at a camp 2 1/2 hours away. E was scheduled for a soccer game that usually ends at 6:15 and M had football practice until about 6 pm. G was supposed to go to the game and then pick up M. Turns out G wasn't sure if he'd make the game, but he'd be there to pick E up.

School cancelled the soccer game, which meant that E needed to be picked up by 5 PM, so I emailed G in the morning to let him know that. he emails me back that it will be tight, he might be late. Then I get a voicemail that he's not sure if I emailed him because the email disappeared and 5 pm will be tough - what's the latest she can be picked up (um 5, duh) .
So I email the team asking if anyone can be a back up for a ride if necessary.

By about 2 PM I hadn't heard anything so I called G to say that I understand he's working, if he can't get E on time, I'll have her come home on the bus afterschool and skip practice.
He snaps at me on the phone and says 5 PM won't work for me and got real snippy ..."I have an important job, blahblahblah... don't worry about it" and hung up on me. 

So I called the school to say that E should come home. Then I call G back up to say thanks for hanging up on me, don't worry about E, she's coming home, you don't have a conflict anymore. 

He yells and asks why did I interfere? How awful it is that E will miss practice, he had it under control blahblahblah. 

I tell him I was trying to remove the inconvenience for him since he has such an important job yada yada. He tells me I shouldn't "fuck with him" or I'll regret it, don't interfere with his custody...stay out of it and leave... over and over - don't fuck with me and play games (wtf?)

Says I'm a bad parent for having E miss practice and how dare I leave her home unsupervised!

 @@ She is 13! 

 He threatened me with legal, financial and custody issues, told me I was unstable and unfit, said I should see someone, I should take meds.. ...by this time I was pacing the kitchen floor and my voice was wavering and probably rising. 

I kept saying what are you talking about, why are you being so rude and unreasonable!? This is unfair!I was trying to make YOUR life easier like I always have.

*And he's out of town next week and this is one night he has with the kids in our own home - and he couldn't get home on a friday night at a reasonable time *and he was leaving at 7 AM  Saturday to take the boat out of the water. I got M a ride to and from his fb practice on Saturday morning... 


He couldn't even be with them for 24 freakin hours. 


And when I got home tonight... E told me he ended up getting home a little after 4 PM on Friday...wtf? So even though he gave me shit about how inconvenient it was to be home in time to pick E up, and what a fuck-up I am, he *somehow rearranged things to get home even earlier than planned. 


Fuckker. 


And of course, I got several offers from other moms to give E a ride, but by then I already had things arranged. I didn't want loose ends while I was gone.  I have ALWAYS arranged all the details when I'm away so that he's not inconvenienced. I even left a mac and cheese casserole and hot dogs so there'd be food friday evening  because I *knew he wouldn't have planned that.


Sorry for my awful lack of quotations and improper use of punctuation.



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